Rejoicing in the discovery.
July 28, 2012, 12:53 pm
Filed under: Behavior, Brain, Mind, Motivation, Spirit, Writing

No one who cannot rejoice in the discovery of his own mistakes deserves to be called a scholar. – Donald Foster

Read on if you’re on the road to a “better life.” Or a “better relationship” or a “better home.” Maybe a “better town” or a “better world.”

A fantastic thing happens when you let go of “negative” things, be they places, emotions, people, a mindset, a habit, an item. It creates space for better things to come.

But we are so fearful of change. Stepping into uncharted areas.

What we are and do now is all we know and so it is our comfort. Even if it is dysfunctional or damaging to our bodies, our relationships or our world. The comfort is enough to keep us.

We become so comfortably wrapped in our habits.

And when the idea to change appears in the fleeting moments…

We often look too long at the closed door.

We see too clearly the error.

Our focus is the problem.

And for a time, that is a reasonable focus. It is an area of reflection and concern.

For a time.

Then there comes a time to seek. To find solutions, to move toward answers and healing.

But our human biasΒ is toward the negative. To protect. To preserve.

It’s a psychological phenomenon in which we pay more attention to negative information than to positive experience or information.

Therapeutic Exercise:

Make a List.

Write down one of your problems on a piece of paper.

Then, write down 5 or more positives in your life on the same page.

Look at them both. But spend a few more minutes meditating on the good lines you scribbled.Β 

And remember…

All our progress is an unfolding, like a vegetable bud. You have first an instinct, then an opinion, then a knowledge as the plant has root, bud, and fruit. Trust the instinct to the end, though you can render no reason.

–Β Ralph Waldo Emerson



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Great insight, thank you. We always need reminding to check our perspective and work to keep positive! And you are so right, sometimes we just need to say.. Yes, it’s time now to quit dwelling and start seeking. Really good stuff πŸ™‚

Comment by raw milk marathon

Thanks for stopping by. Hope you swing by again πŸ™‚ Really enjoyed your writing as well!

Comment by simplyenjoy

Ahh yes, “the devil that you know”. It’s so true, things can be terrible in our lives, but if we’re used to it, it’s somehow tolerable. Like a leaky tap or squeaky door or something. This post reminds me of the time I decided to quit complaining for a month. I wasn’t entirely successful, but as soon as you train yourself to be aware of the negative things you say/do, it really helps to squash them! Anyway, thanks for that food for thought, and I enjoy your writing style – very prose-y. πŸ™‚

Comment by allysia

Thank you, kindly for the comment, Allysia! I’m glad you enjoyed reading it.

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