Forgiveness is…
January 18, 2013, 3:45 pm
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1. To excuse for a fault or an offense; pardon.
2. To renounce anger or resentment against.
3. To absolve from payment of (a debt, for example).
“To not forgive someone is to sentence yourself to living in an emotional hell. Perhaps you are hurting from the rejection of a dear friend or betrayal of a business partner. Maybe it is the emotional devastation from a bitter divorce. Or you’ve been offended by someone in church. Perhaps your childhood was destroyed by a father who didn’t love you or a mother who ignored you or parents who verbally abused you. In the theater of your mind, you relive loveless days and heartbreaking moments, and there are bitter words that ring in your ears day and night. Haunting words of rejection are etched into your memory. Resentment has festered in your soul, and bitterness literally controls you like a raging cancer. You laugh but your laughter is hollow. You smile, but behind the mask are the tears. You go through the motions of life like a robot without feelings or so guarded that no one can enter in. You try drugs from a psychiatrist or other means but there is no peace. The escape you experience under the influence of the drugs and alcohol are a false sense of security for when you wake up, if you do, the problem is still there. The only solution is forgiveness. Forgiveness is the first step toward hope, happiness, healing, and freedom.” – shared via Facebook from a dear, dear friend.
If forgiveness is an open door… an open window. Then maybe unforgiveness is closing the shutters. Pulling the blinds down. Fighting hard to keep out the light.
We use the rocks people throw at us to build a wall that blocks out light instead of perhaps more effectively using them to build a staircase to lift us higher.
Oh, metaphorically speaking through rocks and windows, makes forgiveness seem so easy, doesn’t it?
But it’s just really not that easy.
Unless… just unless… there is someone to take your hand and to say… “Be still, for I am with you. I will be with you always…”
Matthew 28
16 Then the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go.17 When they saw him, they worshiped him; but some doubted. 18 Then Jesus came to them and said,“All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

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My first Buddhist teacher told me that “forgiveness is giving up all hope for a different outcome.” it has stayed with me for years. What sounds difficult or like a loss is actually such a gift, and a letting go of the self in the relationship to forgive. Thanks for posting on this topic. Be well~

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Beautiful. Thanks for stopping by and sharing that!

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