Slowing down long enough.

The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride. Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.
Ecclesiastes 7: 8~9

Just sipping mid~morning coffee and reflecting back on my seven (going on eight) year journey with my husband. We’ve gone through all the steps together… Friends, dating, boyfriend/girlfriend, exes, (even when broken up temporarily we still couldn’t shake each other,) fiancées, now finally husband and wife. All along we’ve been walking toward this, ducking obstacles and holding onto faith when studies, work and travels took us miles apart for periods of time… First six months, then eight, then a full year and then, worst of all, another six month separation when we were engaged due to jobs in separate cities and a period of planning for the future and getting my heart straight with God.

I believe all the distance, trials and hardships have been a test of our convictions and beliefs. My husbands faith has been steady through it all… Always telling me, “It will get better.” But I would always want to know when and how. I was grasping for a security that already existed in Christ. I was racing ahead and God kept pulling me back and whispering, “Rest.”

I’m sure I’m not the only person plagued with impatience in the nature of my personality, and it’s certainly a characteristic tempered by time, experience and age. But I am highly suspect that God has it in mind that I must practice continually the art of patience in this lifetime. So I practice. My job with adults with disabilities gives ample opportunity for practice. My job transition from journalism to behavioral health has been one of the greatest blessings, helping me to focus on the needs of others and the absolute patience, planning and trial and error it takes to manage difficult diagnoses or change maladaptive behaviors. I can honestly say my clients have probably done a better job teaching me than I have done instructing and helping them so far!

Other tips for practicing patience (if you’re up for a self~control challenge):

1. Enroll in a yoga class or an activity you’re unfamiliar with. Learning something new requires you to have great patience with yourself and don’t give up on yourself when you hit an inevitable obstacle.

2. Practice patience while you wait in line. Pay attention when you’re at the bank or grocery store. Do you wait annoyed or anxious? It’s not about waiting; it’s about how we wait.

3. Visit the elderly. Listen to their stories. Teach a child to tie their shoes or to throw a ball. Work with children or the elderly requires great care and patience. Both age groups teach us to slow down and be more understanding.

4. Mark a date on the calendar a month or two in advance to do something you really want to do. Pay attention to yourself as you wait for the date to arrive. (This is also a good tool for delaying gratification and it’s always pleasant to have something to look forward to.)


Prayer for patience:

Dear Father, I have so much for which to be thankful ~ so many reasons to be happy. Please help me slow down long enough to enjoy all You have provided. Amen.


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I had to practice that this morning. Good blog honey.

Comment by John

Well, you’re probably who I get it from 😉 Thanks, Dad!

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