On healing and pain… not so pretty.

A few weeks ago a sister in Christ and mentor dropped an Oswald Chambers quote about living with grace on one of my post’s here… “Grace… is knowing there is at least one thing you don’t know about in another persons life.”

I’ve thought of this quote as I’ve been moving through my fairly new job, my dealings with my family members, growing up with my peers, working with my co-workers and integrating into a new family system thanks to marrying my amazing husband. How can I live a more graceful life? Or better yet, how can I gracefully move away from disgraceful situations? Some things  and dealings in life are so ungracious and have been so ungracious that I am finding it really difficult to deal with them and to move through them…

As I have reflected on this, I keep hearing that I don’t really have to do anything besides accept God’s own grace in my life. This is really contrary to what I really want to do though, which would be my nature to help, mend, fix and correct or to just totally vent and yell about the situation!  I am starting to see how truly gracious God is to fulfill our need for mercy and grace in these difficult moments of life. But we have to go to Him for the grace!

So a few days ago I wrote about patience, too… I think patience is kind of like grace because they both involve forbearance. A waiting period!


“Patience is more than endurance. A saint’s life is in the hands of God like a bow and arrow in the hands of an archer. God is aiming at something the saint cannot see, and He stretches and strains, and every now and again the saint says–‘I cannot stand anymore.’ God does not heed, He goes on stretching till His purpose is in sight, then He lets fly. Trust yourself in God’s hands. Maintain your relationship to Jesus Christ by the patience of faith. ‘Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him.” – Oswald Chambers –

Info on Oswald Chambers found here: 

Oswald Chambers was not famous during his lifetime. At the time of his death in 1917 at the age of forty-three, only three books bearing his name had been published. Among a relatively small circle of Christians in Britain and the U.S., Chambers was much appreciated as a teacher of rare insight and expression, but he was not widely known.

Chambers was born in Aberdeen, Scotland, in 1874, the youngest son of a Baptist minister. He spent his boyhood years in Perth; then his family moved to London when Oswald was fifteen. Shortly after the move to London, Oswald made his public profession of faith in Christ and became a member of Rye Lane Baptist Church. This marked a period of rapid spiritual growth, along with an intense struggle to find God’s will and way for his life.


I am after God’s heart right now and am really doing my best (at least I think, for the moment!) to hear him and heal from the past, but it has not always been easy. It’s not always easy when you encounter the same ungracious situations or relationships and really have to question your purpose in all of it. Must my heart continue to break? What if healing never comes?  So, I think this final quote by Chambers kind of sums it up.

“If through a broken heart God can bring His purposes to pass in the world, then thank Him for breaking your heart.” – Oswald Chambers –

I am thanking God for my broken heart and the times in the past when my heart was broken. For surely he was saving me and preparing me for something better.

And I thank God for ungracious circumstances and ungracious people in my life, for surely it is there and in those moments where I need to go and seek after God’s grace and freely receive it, surrendering all to Him. I think of all the times when I have been ungracious, unforgiving, unyielding and stubborn and I think, maaaaaaan, this really is some AMAZING grace.




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Wow a great post of wisdom and the amazing grace that saves lives. Your heart seems to overflow with God’s love and i am blessed that you pour it out through your blog so we can follow and be encouraged by you!

Comment by Steve Rebus

Thanks for that, Steve. I’ve had a discouraging week, so I’m really, really asking for more of Him and less of me! I’m glad you stopped by here and always enjoy your page. God bless.

Comment by simplyenjoy

Thank you for this Steph. You are wise beyond your years, with a spiritual wisdom that the Lord has blessed you with.

Comment by Kay

Thank you sister Stephanie. I needed that.
love you as always my Daughter.

Comment by John

Love you, too, Dad. I’m glad you could relate. We all have pain and hurt to deal with this side of heaven! Kay, thanks for your kind words and being such a blessing to me! xoxox You inspire me 🙂

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