Expectation and heartache.

What do you think?

Do unrealistic expectations lead to heartache?

Perhaps the best thing we can do for ourselves and others is understand who we are, what we want and our personal limits.

When we know who we are and what we want, we focus on meeting our own needs and following our own dreams, giving and encouraging the people around us to do the same.

We won’t demand that other people live up to our expectations or live their life how we think they should live if we are already busy creating and pursuing the life we desire.

We won’t allow ourselves to define or force beliefs on another, and we won’t allow others to define us and interject their expectations onto us when we have already clearly defined our purpose and goals.

This can be a  more difficult topic than I’m making it sound and involves discussions on relationship dynamics and interpersonal needs and goals. Every relationship is different and has different needs.

Certainly we have to rely on one another, trust one another and depend on one another throughout life. The elements of working together and responsibility in human relationships truly make us unique.

The center of every healthy relationship is freedom, love and trust. Healthy relationships help you mature and grow. Unhealthy relationships are rife with expectation and demands, coming from a place of fear and control. Relationships can be healthy, unhealthy or somewhere in between.

What do you expect from your self in life?

What do you expect from your loved ones?

Putting your expectations in a realistic framework based on individual needs and desires can help alleviate suffering and heartache.

2 Corinthians 13:11

Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice!
Strive for full restoration,
encourage one another,
be of one mind, live in peace.
And the God of love and peace
will be with you.


3 Comments so far
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thanks for your post! i am with you, being up front and clear about our expectations is critical to a healthy relationship.

Comment by bryskates

Thanks for reading and the comments. You have a great page started and I look forward to reading more there. Relationships can be so complicated as people are complex creatures. It makes things easier when we know what we want and understand how to express that to people. And listening is big! More often than not we hear what we want to hear.

Comment by simplyenjoy

thanks for that as well.
in regards to my wife we try to be clear with what we need from the other as well as direct. Just like any other relationship there is an ebb and flow.
keep on blogging!

Comment by bryskates

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