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To begin again.

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Hanging head

unfold my heart

reveal light to broken twisted parts

reach for the sinners lost in strife

pull them into more new life

refresh, renew, hearts turned to You

Faith leads away from confusion

Your love is real –

All else is illusion.

a war for souls

in the hearts of men

Jesus, help your people to begin again.

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pleasure is a simple shift…

a cup of tea

a deep breath

a thankful prayer of gratitude

a snoring kitty

a knowing of hope

making room for more love

and only love.

accepting what is

what has been

and what is yet to come.

“Do not those who plot evil go astray? But those who plan what is good find love and faithfulness.” Proverbs 14:22

 



Throwing stones.

I’ve learned some valuable lessons in the past month that have really hurt.

I’ve learned not all professing Christians walk in love or even tell the truth.

I’ve learned not all employees in the mental health field are educated in mental health wellness.

I’ve learned when to speak, when to listen and when to stand my ground.

I’ve learned that wearing your heart on your sleeve (and, honestly, I knew this before) often gets you hurt.

I’ve learned not to make assumptions about other people – i.e.) “They work in the care-giving field so they must be caring.” FALSE.

But I’m not a victim.

I left a job because of unfair and unjust circumstances and I’m emotionally stronger because of it.

I have a greater understanding of this now: Matthew 10:16 “I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves.”

…at the end of the day, I do believe God will close doors in our lives in order to protect us. He tells us that he has plans for our good and as a believer, I take that to heart and I believe it! God is not a man that He should lie. In some way, that I can’t yet see, blessings will come out of this situation.

He has already blessed me with employment at a great agency, a beautiful family and food and shelter. I know that my gifts are over-flowing. I may  not understand the “why” of it… but it is what it is.

And right now, I’m praying for ways to share my gifts and to really serve in a greater capacity…

And this is what has come to me – STONES. Quite clearly I heard the whispering. “Don’t throw stones like the accusers do… but build with them.”

So I’m building with the proverbial thrown stones that have been tossed my way and unknowingly, I’ve been building with them for over a year. I’ve been drawing in the sand of different beaches, arranging pebbles and stones and musing on my Savior.

I know I’m not perfect and I have certainly thrown my own stones in life and projected myself when I should not have. I know we all make mistakes. Jesus’s mercy is so great. It’s awesome and undeserved.

I’m praying the words I use will always BUILD UP others and not drag down. I truly know how it feels and it’s disheartening. It’s awful. No one should ever have to feel that way. I don’t want to throw stones… I truly want to build with them.

This is my practice:

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Balance – Marconi Beach – Cape Cod National Seashore – Eastham, MA Winter 2012

cross

Standing on the promises – Longbeach, CA Summer 2012

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Fruits of the Spirit –  Monomoy Beach, Chatham, MA Summer 2013

underwater

Immanuel – God with us – Westerly Town Beach, Westerly, RI December 2013

Photo: Tidings of comfort and joy ♥ Moonstone Beach, South Kingston, RI

Tidings of Comfort and Joy – Moonstone Beach, South Kingstown, RI December 2013

Jesus Comes to Jerusalem as King

Matthew 19

28 After Jesus had said this, he went on ahead, going up to Jerusalem. 29 As he approached Bethphage and Bethany at the hill called the Mount of Olives, he sent two of his disciples, saying to them, 30 “Go to the village ahead of you, and as you enter it, you will find a colt tied there, which no one has ever ridden. Untie it and bring it here. 31 If anyone asks you, ‘Why are you untying it?’ say, ‘The Lord needs it.’”

32 Those who were sent ahead went and found it just as he had told them. 33 As they were untying the colt, its owners asked them, “Why are you untying the colt?”

34 They replied, “The Lord needs it.”

35 They brought it to Jesus, threw their cloaks on the colt and put Jesus on it. 36 As he went along, people spread their cloaks on the road.

37 When he came near the place where the road goes down the Mount of Olives, the whole crowd of disciples began joyfully to praise God in loud voices for all the miracles they had seen:

38 “Blessed is the king who comes in the name of the Lord!”[b]

“Peace in heaven and glory in the highest!”

39 Some of the Pharisees in the crowd said to Jesus, “Teacher, rebuke your disciples!”

40 “I tell you,” he replied, “if they keep quiet, the stones will cry out.”

41 As he approached Jerusalem and saw the city, he wept over it 42 and said, “If you, even you, had only known on this day what would bring you peace—but now it is hidden from your eyes. 43 The days will come upon you when your enemies will build an embankment against you and encircle you and hem you in on every side. 44 They will dash you to the ground, you and the children within your walls.They will not leave one stone on another, because you did not recognize the time of God’s coming to you.”



It is

It is coffee

6 a.m.

Morning stretches with me

lengthening across the sky

muddy periwinkle horizon

early on a Saturday.

Awake

deep breaths

of autumn air

we’re searching for the same things

truth and feathers and a spark

to warm us.

Always striving, looking, reaching

while others reinvent the wheel

to relabel the truth

and analyse how they feel

It is all here

under this veil

Coffee at 6 a.m.

It is.



Worn

 



Offense (not about football.)

Your value

is not determined

by how somebody else

has treated you.

Champions

refuse

to be offended.

They will not live in offense.

notes taken from A Sermon

 



Full-circle sittin’.

Waves splashed on large boulders today and sailboats breezed across the water.

Double-crested cormorants sat watch on the rocks.

The wind was playing in Connecticut and I had the familiar sense I’d been there before, though of course I hadn’t been.

“Sittin’ on the Dock of the Bay” by Otis Redding has been stuck in my head this past week…

I’ve been singing it washing dishes, driving my car, dealing with clients, feeding the cat… you get the picture.

“So I’m just gonna sit on the dock of the bay
watchin’ the tide roll away
I’m sittin’ on the dock of the bay
wasting time

Looks like nothin’s gonna change
Everything still remains the same
I can’t do what ten people tell me to do
So I guess I’ll remain the same

Sitting here resting my bones
And this loneliness won’t leave me alone
It’s 2,000 miles I’ve roamed
Just to make this dock my home now

I’m just gonna sit at the dock of the bay
watchin’ the tide roll away
I’m sittin’ on the dock of the bay
wasting time”

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Fresh Squeezed Juice of the day:

baby carrots

celery

Red Delicious apples

watermelon

Today I’m grateful for full-circle moments and gratitude. Full-circle moments in life bring opportunity and pleasure back, sealing clean a loop where it once was stolen… tiny mysterious knowings only the individual can discern. Moments like this are when God sends a breeze… a whisper… a reminder… “I see you, I know you and you are mine.”

I’m grateful to serve a God who sees His children, loves His children and gives His children what they need when they need it.

Psalm 139

1 You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.
5 You hem me in behind and before,
and you lay your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.

7 Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.

 

Today was a beautiful, full-circle day. I’m thankful for it.



Grace to balance, courage to stumble.

little itty bitty tips

to untangle complication

sip coffee and smile

don’t spend more than you make… it doesn’t make sense.

it’s ok to be alone

it’s ok to reach out, too…

it’s ok to just be.

it’s safe to smile

it’s safe to ask for help

little by little

slow and steady wins the race

patience is a virtue

good things take time and yadda yadda yadda

and that’s alright, darlin’

ain’t no thang but a chicken wang

are you in a hurry?

be fruitful, not frantic.

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Some artwork I painted in my office.

Painting helps me slow down… and reflect.

The creative arts are also a great way to achieve better brain balance.

(Courtesy of Google Images)

The left brain: I am the left brain. I am a scientist, a mathematician, I love the familiar. I categorize. I am accurate and linear. Analytic and strategic. I am practical. Always in control. A master of words and language. Realistic. I calculate equations and play with numbers. I am order. I am logic. I know exactly who I am.

The right brain: I am the right brain. I am creativity. A free spirit. I am passion. Yearning. Sensuality. I am the sound of roaring laughter. I am taste. The feeling of sand beneath bare feet. Movement. Vivid colors. I am the urge to paint on an empty canvas. I am boundless imagination. Art. Poetry. I sense. I feel. I am everything I wanted to be.

What are some ways you search for balance in your life? Is it working for you? How do you define balance?



All about the “word-play.”
August 9, 2013, 3:48 pm
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Just for fun all you word lovers out there!

Happy Friday!

Thank God it IS! 🙂

 



Responsible emotions – a simple approach.
Have you ever worked with an individual that seemed extremely adept at shifting blame or complaining about how the actions and attitudes of others were making them feel?
Most of us know that gossip, venting and complaining in daily repetition can create a toxic environment and build extra stress on top of the stress of doing the job. There are certain people who just always seem to paint a situation with a negative brush, but it somehow is never the fault of themselves, their attitude or their perspective.
So why do we keep allowing this kind of communication to occur?
Why do we listen to gossip?
Why do we participate in gossip?
Why do we allow for others to project their feelings onto us or even onto other people or coworkers?
If you listen closely to how people talk about a situation, their complaints and gripes are normally not about the other person, but about what they can or cannot handle emotionally themselves and take responsibility for, thus shifting the blame and the focus to an outside source.
It’s very easy to do!
But when a work environment becomes “he said, she said” and full of pointing fingers, productivity plummets and stress increases.
I’ve been presently dealing with some of these very issues at work and in my personal life and found this great article regarding responsible sharing of emotions.
Imagine if more people stopped, thought about it and took responsibility for their emotions at work and at home. How would life be different? What would change?
But since we can’t depend on other people changing, we have to start with number one.
That’s the simple truth.
“I can make a change. I can take responsibility for my emotional health.”
Today (as in the past,) I’m personally committing to taking full responsibility for my emotions, my life and the results of my choices.
When you fully work on owning and growing your own emotional health, you grant your loved ones and coworkers the emotional freedom to do the same. The space becomes healthier and the boundaries become clearer. Owning your own emotional health means you don’t demand, blame or attempt to control the emotions of another person in order that you “feel better” or “feel a certain way.”
Are You Expressing Your Feelings, Or Just Creating Drama?
BY SHELLY BULLARD
JULY 31, 2013 5:00 AM EDT

 

Most of us are feelings-illiterate. I don’t say this as a judgement; I say it as a sad truth.

We live in a culture that emphasizes most things masculine (doing, progressing, thinking) and undervalues the qualities of the feminine (being, reflecting, feeling). While we all experience the entire spectrum of emotions, most of us get lost in this territory.

Hopefully I can help with that.

In this article I’m going to discuss feelings and drama, and why your relationship depends on your knowing the difference.

Feelings and drama get grouped together all the time, as if they’re the same thing. Most commonly in this way: That emotional chick = drama. But it’s not necessarily true.

Yes, women tend to be more feeling-attuned and emotive, but this isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it’s part of what makes us so attractive — expressiveness, vulnerability, and openness are all beautiful qualities of the feminine.

However, there’s one way our feelings take a turn for the worse into the realm of drama. And that is: Blaming your feelings on someone else.

Drama is making your feelings someone else’s responsibility!

It’s crucial for you to understand that your feelings are YOUR feelings. They belong to you. So they’re yours to work through. Lots of us didn’t get that memo.

Here’s the thing: we all have very unique personalities and triggers. What makes me feel bad is very different from what makes someone else feel bad. That’s because my wounds greatly influence my uncomfortable emotions.

My wounds (and subsequent feelings) are not caused by someone else (in the present moment). I know it feels like they are, but they aren’t.

Are my feelings provoked by someone else? Yes! All the time! But this doesn’t make it their fault or their responsibility to fix. The sooner we recognize this, the happier we’ll be in relationships.

When you take responsibility for your feelings, you don’t have to deal with the madness of trying to get someone to make it better (which never works anyway).

So how do you avoid drama while simply feeling your feelings? The easiest way is this:

When communicating an emotional experience to whomever you feel provoked by, say, “I feel _____.”

Seriously, that’s it.

I feel scared.

I feel really angry.

I feel sad.

You can say it while you’re hysterically crying (even better, actually; it’s authentic and therefore elicits an empathic response); you can say it when you’re fiery angry. You can say these words in the midst of any emotional experience. And that’s all you have to do.

The reason “I statements” are such an important tool to use in relationships is because they promote connection. An “I statement” is the opposite of blaming; it automatically keeps the person you’re talking to undefended and therefore, more likely to stay open and caring towards you (which, of course, is what you want anyway).

When we don’t use “I statements” in describing our feelings, we sound like this:

You made me feel _____!

The message in between the lines is:

You screwed up.

You did something I don’t like.

You’re wrong.

This communication style makes us defensive and furious! It’s attacking to the person you’re talking to, which is why it almost always leads to a bigger fight. “You statements” = drama. They just don’t work.

Also, be careful for the sneaky “I statement that’s really a you statement”: I feel like you _____. This is just undercover blaming; keep “you” out of it.

It’s very important for us to learn how to live with our feelings in a love-promoting way. Because we all have feelings! They’re a natural part of life. They’re a beautiful part of life.

Instead of labeling feelings as something to be ashamed of, why don’t we embrace them, and try to do them right?

The next time you feel something, think twice before you make it into drama (someone else’s fault.) Simply go the route of feeling your feelings, take responsibility for them, and communicate them in a way that will keep the other person open to your experience. Connection and love will follow as a result. That’s a guarantee.

 



Encourage one another.

2 Corinthians 13:11

Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice!
Strive for full restoration,
encourage one another,
be of one mind, live in peace.
And the God of love and peace will be with you.



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